Remember that adult – a grandparent, perhaps, or a neighbor, coach, your mom or dad, or the custodian at school – who somehow saw something different in you than anyone else, and in so doing changed the way you saw yourself and the world around you. In their presence you felt different or powerful or simply at ease. If you can’t remember a person like this, you have surely heard the stories, seen them in movies or read about them in books. They are not fictional. They are very, very real. The question is: How do they do it? Is it what they say? How they say it? What they do? How they live their lives? Or is it something intangible… their very presence. Moreover, is it deliberate or a happy accident?