There you are…

By Chris Trout | April 19, 2008

Have you ever struggled with something for years and years, then one day you suddenly notice that the struggle is over? It doesn't end with an explosion, a huge "aha" moment, a revelation that changes everything. You just quietly notice that the very behavior or thought pattern or relationship dynamic that had always created such conflict and drama inside you… doesn't any more.

There you are, not struggling.

There you are, being grateful.

There you are, being present and aware.

There you are, not reacting.

So let me introduce into the lexicon a term to talk about these subtle noticings: "There you are" moments. I've been have a great many of these lately, mostly about issues that I had pretty much concluded were never going to change - at least not significantly or consistently. I was just too dense, the old patterns too entrenched. No matter how hard I tried, I always fell back into my "default" mode. Until I didn't any more. It is quite glorious. It gives me hope for persistence. It's totally worth the wait.

There you are.